Tag Archives: Bindi

Wednesday Words – Do Not Marry a Tall Guy

Image August 20, 2014 jcisnowjs 2 Comments

Marrying a tall guy is like marrying your Prince Charming, but even Mr. Charming comes into your life with pros and cons…. remember snow white’s love struggle. 😮

Point taken. So, once you decide to get married to a tall guy, there will be some pros and many cons too…. I will not share much of the details, just one interesting one or should I say, most irritating habit of my tall hubby – Abhishek Singh. ❤

I became a victim of it, in the very first few days of our married life, when I asked him to hang a small mirror for me, near the basin. You know, I love mirrors, specially when I am in it 😀 He obliged. Such a good husband. Right?? 😉

Wait for it……… and there it was…. A mirror on the wall, only problem, it was only showing my forehead. just my forehead…. rest of me was nowhere in the mirror. 😦 Yes!!!! He placed it as per his height. “I can clearly see my face. Look! What else you want?”, he said, seeing my dissatisfied (more like angry wife) look. 😡

I understood at that time, that it’s going to be long road ahead.

Now, my car keys are over the fridge top, my phone somehow get landed there too, along with mails and my watch…. just within the reach of my hubby, and out from me. His wallet too. I can understand the car keys and the rest. I can live with or without them… But, His wallet??? Are you kidding me? How many tricks I have to do now, to get a hold of his wallet, daily? Is he playing smart? I doubt.

Abhishek Singh

Everything in my home, is now placed at the topmost shelf. Sometimes I use chair, table or my kids toys (I just throw the toys at things, till they fall down 😐 or something else falls. You can always blame kids if anything goes wrong). Whenever I confront him, he would say, ‘I have put it on the top shelf so the kids don’t reach’, But, that much higher?? seriously? Leave kids, even I can not reach there. 😡

Height of it was, when he put all of my shoes in top shelf of our shoe cupboard. Actually he used three cartons and put all of my beautiful sandals and shoes to the top. Reason – ‘kids create a mess with your shoes.’ 😦

Sometimes I use it to my advantage too. Like when he ask me to give him car keys, or his credit card. I would just say, ‘Oh, It’s so high, I just couldn’t reach, Please help yourself’ 😉

Or, ‘ Can you please bring me my shoes. It’s at the top, you see.’

I am smart too. 😛

Spiritual

Wednesday Words – Bindi – What does Color Of Bindi Signifies?

Image July 16, 2014 jcisnowjs 1 Comment

In my post of last Wednesday, “Bindi – More than Just A Red Dot” I wrote about importance of putting a Bindi on the forehead, and significance of the place where we put our Bindi. A simple tradition which started with roots so deep in spirituality, has now taken an altogether different aspect and is presently worn to express more of our fashionable quotient.

In today’s post I want to write about relevance of color associated with Bindi.

Firstly, Bindi is not associated with women only, but men too used to put a Bindi on their forehead, more popularly known as Tilak. Hindu men put Tilak on their foreheads on auspicious occasions or while praying to God.

In ancient times, Bindi of varying colors were used for categorizing men with regard to their place and role in Varna/caste system. Point to note here is that, this Varna System has nothing to do with the caste politics that is preached or executed today. Infact it was based on the roles of a person in the society and not merely on birth.

So Brahmins, who at that time were considered as teachers and priests, used to wear a White Sandalwood Tilak on their forehead. White being the color of purity and of divinity, suited this categorization.

Kshatriya or Raajputs, used to wear a Red Tilak on their forehead, as they belong to the class of Kings, warriors, ministers and administrators. Red being the color of passion, courage and of heroism, deserve nothing less than belonging to Kshatriya Varna.

A Yellow Tilak was used by the Vaishya Varna of the society, as they were the businessmen, traders and man of the markets, in the society. Yellow being the color of practicality and prosperity was chosen for Vaishya Varna.

Shudra Varna of society, which was the service class of society, adorned Black Tilak on their forehead. This tilak has more to do with availability and inexpensiveness of color black, as ashes to peasant class, with respect to expensive sandalwood and kumkum. Black color was used to denote service class.

These four Varna used four different colors of Bindis/Tilak, in earlier times. When it comes to women, they usually wore a Red Kumkum Bindi, if they are married. An unmarried girl usually wore no Bindi, but if she does, she used a black one. A widow or a women who never wished to get married, used the sandalwood white bindi.

Bindi – More than Just A Red Dot — Woman Praying

This distinction also has its reasons. Red is color of Love, and a married woman while wearing a Red Bindi, represents and proclaims her love towards her husband. When she is unmarried, she is thought to be as in, not in love with anyone, and ash which was used as black color Bindi earlier, denotes no worldly love. A sandalwood white Bindi was adorned by widowed and priestesses, to show their love towards divinity, the God. Interchangeably they have used Black Bindi too.

In south of India, a different combination of color is used to worn a Bindi on Forehead, wherein a black horizontal line is drawn along with a Red Bindi, on a forehead.

Black again is the color taken from ashes, which represents Shiva. Shiva himself is depicted covered in ashes all the time, as he is beyond the worldly desires. While Red Bindi, here signifies Shakti, the ultimate energy. This kind of Bindi denotes the super fusion of both Shiva and Shakti into Aadidev Ardhnaarishwar.

Now that I have written almost everything about the grandness of color in a Bindi, I must tell you that all that I have written was practiced before. At present, Bindi is more of an accessory. We chose color of Bindi to match as per our outfit and nothing more. Unmarried girls happily adorn a Red Bindi, and so does Married women don’t flutter their eyes while wearing a black or white Bindi.

Only difference being, no more kumkum, sandalwood or ashes are used to make a Bindi, rather a glue or some cheap material is used today to make a modern Bindi. But who is complaining? Not me. 🙂

Life, Spiritual

Wednesday Words – Bindi – More than Just A Red Dot

Image July 9, 2014 jcisnowjs 6 Comments

If you ask someone to draw a sketch of an Indian Girl, most probably they will draw any girly face and then draw a Bindi (sort of a red dot), on her forehead. 😀 In reality, if you go to any Indian city, you will be disappointed to see, that not every girl, wears this red dot on her forehead. 🙂

I couldn’t find out, who started this tradition of wearing Bindi? But, I do found out why it started, and what is it’s actual significance?

Now a days, mostly north Indians women wear Bindi as a symbol of their marital status. A Red Bindi is mostly worn by married women on their forehead. Widowed and unmarried women don’t wear Bindi. Even if they do, they wear a Black Bindi or Sandalwood Bindi. But, these customs are not followed religiously everywhere, and I think it’s for the best, because Bindi is not supposed to show your marital status or your fashion statement, but rather your spiritual self.

Before we go about exploring Bindi, lets first see the importance of place where we apply it. Bindi is applied at the center of the forehead just between the eyebrows. Why this place is important?

The position directly behind the center of forehead is of Ajna Chakra, the Sixth Chakra. This is also known as the position for the Third eye. Sixth Chakra is the highest chakra in our physical body. If you remember my several posts on Chakras, the highest Chakra, Seventh Chakra is rather placed in our outer body, also called as our spiritual body, just above our head. Thus our Sixth Chakra, Ajna Chakra, is the highest center of Spirituality in our physical body.

Sixth Chakra is for command, intuition, intelligence, as it represents mind, knowledge, and also connection between our physical self to spiritual self. Sometimes it is also referred as the gateway to attaining spiritual energy and Moksha.

In earlier times, when people used to pray, they used to awaken this Ajna Chakra, through their Kundalini Shakti. In a very simple term, during praying or more specifically Meditation, this place being the gateway for energy, becomes active, and as Kundalini passes through it, it becomes hot. Focusing on your Sixth Chakra also create headaches for some time. To calm this effect, and cool it, people started putting Kumkum and Sandalwood on their forehead, in the form of a Bindi or Tilak. Both of these have a cooling effect.

Now a days, it would be very rare if anyone has this capability to awaken their Kundalini Shakti to such a level as to took it to Ajna Chakra. But this practice of putting Kumkum and sandalwood Bindi, just before praying started based on this basic notion. Also, to show importance of this super dynamic place filled with heightened spirituality, we place a mark of respect and devotion. It is also a representation for the Third eye.