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Ram Ghar Aaye Hain… Ram Ji is finally home.

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Itni Khushi kabhi pehle nahi mili…
Jai Siya Ram!!!

Today marks a day of unparalleled joy, a celebration that feels like a culmination of a lifetime of anticipation. I waited my whole life for this day. I am so happy that I want to shout from the rooftops, sing, dance, and wander the streets of Ayodhya today.

Here is one of the videos of me singing Ram Bhajan on this occasion https://youtu.be/c8VqPy11PbY

Ram Lala has rightfully taken his place in the newly built grandeur Ram temple in Ayodhya, India. This is the truest form of Diwali as Ram returns after a long period. In Treta Yug, his exile lasted only 14 years, but in Kalyug, we kept Ram in exile for 500 years. How many generations have waited to see this day today? We are so blessed to see this auspicious occasion in our lifetime and be able to feel this blessed moment in our hearts.

I had the privilege of visiting Ayodhya 14 years ago. I explored Dashrath Bhavan, Kaushalya Ji’s place, Hanuman Garhi, and more, but there was no sign of a temple for Ram. Barricades and armed forces dominated the scene. Moving forward, I saw a small tent from a distance on what seemed like a construction site. Police officers guided us, indicating that this makeshift tent temple is where we should pray. In that tent, my baby Ram sat in harsh weather.

At that time, I didn’t feel devotion; instead, I felt guilt seeing my Ram in a tent under such conditions. Today, that feeling has dissolved into tears of joy. I am blessed to witness this day.

This day hasn’t come easy. It follows numerous sacrifices, including unnamed individuals and many in their prime youth. Saints and devotees, never expecting to be killed by their own people in their own country, sacrificed their lives.

This struggle went on for years but I specifically remember the time around 6th December 1992. There was a curfew everywhere after Shaurya Divas and I remember when a few people joined at our place and we watched an unedited video recording of how those events unfolded. Hundreds and thousands of Karya Sevaks beaten up and many of them were shot at; most of them were unarmed and with folded hands praying and taking the name of Bhagvaan Ram with their last breath. To see those dead bodies floating in river Sarayu, filled with youth of India and Mulayam’s goons in police derogating their corpses. To see the Saadhvi and Saints beaten up by police with their lathis, seeing the marks of this beating on their body and the shame it brought to us to see them treated this way in independent India. Shameful!!

All this struggle and sacrifice have led to today’s celebration. As you celebrate Diwali, please light a Diya in memory of those who lost their lives, enabling us to witness this joyous day.

Ram as a Suryavanshi is not only a Bhagavan to me but also my ancestor my father. Seeing Ram Lala in the temple today felt like I was seeing my parampita my father in her baby form. The love it emanates is unimaginable and cannot be expressed in words.

Ram Rajya, the dreams of many Bhartiya have come true today. I congratulate all of you as this year, we are fortunate to celebrate not just one but two Diwalis with our beloved Ram Lala.

As we revel in the joy of this momentous occasion, let us cherish the significance of this day and the unity it brings to our diverse and culturally rich nation. Jai Siya Ram!

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Behind Every Successful Man

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If I will get a nickel for all the times, I was introduced using this phrase….

As a person, we all have different roles that we play in a society like a Man is a husband, a son, a father, etc. Same with us Women who are mothers, wives, daughters, sisters, etc.

But what should be the general rule of thumb when you are introduced as someone’s husband or wife? Do post in the comments what you think about this?

Let me give you an example when my husband goes to my office gatherings, he is introduced there as my husband but the next question that they ask is what do you do? What are your hobbies? How do you spend your time away from work? Nobody assumes that he is just a husband. He has a personality that people want to know about.

On the other hand, when I am in a gathering and if I am being introduced by a person, especially from an older generation, as soon as they will say that I am a wife they will follow it with this cringe-worthy quote “Behind every successful man there is a woman.”

Not that, I don’t like to be introduced as his wife. I take pride in that. I am proud of him and his achievements, and ladies if you don’t know that he is married, well, I will parade my customized Mrs. Singh Purse in front of you like a hundred times.  

My problem with this quote is two-fold.

Firstly, when you say behind every successful man/woman or whatever, you are taking away credit for that person’s success. There are a lot of factors that go behind making a person successful, their parents, siblings, friends, education, and financial background, but mostly it is that person who despite good or bad situations chose to become successful. My husband could have been maybe more successful if he had someone else as his wife, or maybe not (as I chose to believe).

I read this story somewhere that two men met at a party and one offered a drink to another and said, I drink because my father was a heavy drinker and now, I am too. It is part of my childhood and I blame my father for giving me this bad habit. The other man declines the drink and says, I don’t drink because my father was a heavy drinker. I saw how alcohol ruined his life and now I have decided to stop this habit in my family generation.

The moral being, many get the same challenges, but it will depend on how you want to respond to your life challenges.

That is why nobody, your husband, or your wife, can make you successful. Own your success. Own your failures too. Your family could be a part of your journey, but it is YOU who are walking the path and making your own way.

The second problem that I see with this quote is why when a lady is introduced as a wife society felt the need to add this quote to justify her existence. It does not matter if you are a homemaker or a working woman, it is so insulting to prove that you are worthy of being a wife only if your husband is successful. What if he is a failure, then are you going to blame it on his wife too? And yes, people do that.

The notion that I let him be or let him do whatever he wants to do, implies that I could have been a nagging wife and stopped him from doing the things he does. So, I should be credited for his success, which is me being a quiet and submissive wife. Argh….

Why can’t a wife be vocal, an active partner, and successful as a team? Why do I have to let him be, why can’t we decide how to be in harmony with each other and work towards shared success. Why is it so hard for people to understand that it is no longer acceptable for a wife to STAND BEHIND?

I am and I will always be STANDING WITH HIM.