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Life

Only time I thought, I have more clothes than I should

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You will never hear a girl say that she has more clothes than she should have, even when she will have more than a truck load of clothes. Never.

What you will hear, always, will be something like – ‘I don’t have anything to wear for tomorrow’s party‘, or, ‘I don’t have any matching clothes to go with my new nail polish‘, or, ‘ this dress I wore last summer too, how can I wear it again‘…. point being – A girl can never ever have enough clothes. 🙂

Me too.

Every time I plan to go somewhere I struggle with what to wear, and everytime I tell myself that I have nothing to wear. Maybe it’s time to go for shopping. So, if you are planning to invite me to a party, there is a 110% chance that I am going to shop a dress for it. Now to think of it, maybe that’s the reason my husband doesn’t prefer to party.

So, lets come back to our original plot. Time when I thought I had much more clothes to wear that I need.

That was the time I was packing all my stuff for our move to another city.

When I was packing my clothes, folding them, putting them in big bags, all my dresses, sarees, suits, skirts, everything from belts to scarves and counting every small to big item; realizing with every passing minute that why do I have so many things in my closet. Some dresses I haven’t even worn them twice and it would have been more than an year me buying them. Some were so old, I don’t even understand why I was still keeping them.

I decided to clean out my stuff before taking all my clutter with me to my new home. You won’t believe how difficult it is, one minute you were thinking why do you need all these stuff another minute you will attach some emotional value to your clutter and would not want to part with it.

Soon I realized that it’s not like I buy more clothes but it is more like that I do not let go of my stuff. I still had my tees from my college time still in wearable conditions lying in my good clothes section. I still have my dresses from 10 years back and I still use to wear them now and then.

Let it go… let it go…. that was the song from Frozen, playing in my mind at that time.

I did manage to separate out nearly half of my clothes. Donated them. Still had a lot to pack.

At the end, when all was packed, there were 3 big and 1 small suitcase packed just with my clothes while overall my rest of the family, my hubby and three kids, all together managed their stuff in just three bags.

There I was having more than everyone else in my family had, and still struggling to figure out what would I wear tomorrow.

Don’t worry, my this state of mind hadn’t lasted long. Just 15 days to our new place and I did manage to buy me a pair of shoes and a nice scarf. But, scarf and shoes doesn’t count, right??

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Life

My Take on Indian Arranged Marriages

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Being an Indian I have witnessed a lot of Arranged Marriages, some small scale some larger than life in all its grandeur; but few things never change in an Indian Arranged Marriage.

I have collated few such funny and awesomely amazing things about Indian Arranged Marriages in my article Inside the Great Indian Arranged Marriages. Do read.

Do read my earlier article also if you want a prelude to Indian Marriages and wants to know How Indians select their Brides. 😎

If yours is also an Arranged marriage, do share what was same or different in your case; even if you have opted for a Love marriage, tell us about your experience.

No need to comment, if you are still single; why waste your freedom here 😛

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Kids and Me, Life

Frolic Friday – My Hubby is not going to fight for me.

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When you fall in Love with your Prince Charming, the love of your life; you have a vision of how he will turn out to be. Like you expect that he will take care of you for the rest of life; he will not let anyone else come between both of you; he will not give up on you, ever; he will not allow any one else to put claim on you, on your love….. etc, etc.

I was hoping the same…. alas. 😦

My heart broke few days back, when another fellow came between us. He literally dragged me by my hand and took me away from my husband; and my strong built husband didn’t even said a single word. He just let me go, so easily. 😥

It so happened, that one fine day I was watching a romantic movie with my hubby, sitting on our couch, sipping tea and laughing at the silly jokes in the movie. It was like one of those life’s small happy moments. I was cherishing all this, when suddenly my youngest, three-year old son, Renne, came to us.

‘MAMMA’, he said, literally shouting, ‘don’t sit here‘.

I asked, ‘why’?

He replied with irritable tone now, ‘Don’t sit with Papa. Come to my side‘, pointing towards our loveseat couch.

I was not surprised, Renne has always been a mamma boy. If would have been a kangaroo, he would have never come out of my pouch.

I said to him, ‘ sweetie, I am sitting with Papa here. You sit on your couch. I will come later‘.

‘No’, he replied. This time he was sort of angry, not only on me but on his Papa too. I sensed it from the way, he looked at him. ‘Come to my side. Don’t sit with Papa‘.

He was blatant about it.

‘But I want to sit with Papa. I love him too‘, I said.

‘No, you love only me‘, he replied.

By this time, I was looking for some help, some support and I turned to my husband.

My husband, the love of my life, my savior, my soulmate….. ‘Why are you not saying anything? Say something to Renne‘.

Hubby – ‘What can I say? I don’t want to come between you two. I can’t fight with him.‘ :O

Arghh!!!

See, he gave up, so easily.

Renne won.

Till movie last, he was holding my hand, as if I could have run away. He didn’t even let me go pee. Thank God! He is my son and not a possessive boyfriend/husband.

God, save the girl, he is going to marry some day.

Coming to my husband, he slept on the couch that day.

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Life

Wednesday Words – If Only We Had Perfect Spouses

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Perfection – “the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects. “

Is it possible to be perfect? Specially, is it possible to have a Perfect Spouse/Partner?

Even if you have a perfect Spouse, will your life be Perfect?

If you are thinking that I have gone mad, thinking about Perfection then No – I was already Mad, before I asked these questions. 😛

I watched a movie recently – ‘The One I love’. It had a very peculiar concept. A husband and wife goes to a vacation retreat to help their doomed marriage by spending some quality time with each other. They didn’t knew however, that this vacation home had an extra guest house with some strange powers.

Whenever any one of them entered the guest house alone, they would meet their spouse already present there, but he/she was just a perfect version of them, not the real spouse.

So, when husband entered the guest house, he saw his wife’s fake avatar, perfectly clad in skimpy clothes, making egg and bacon for him and inviting him for a joint shower session. What more a man can ask for? 😎

When wife entered the guest house, she met the perfect looking chocolatey romantic husband of hers who wants to talk about her feelings, her dreams, her aspirations. A husband who actually talk more than just asking for a sandwich. 😀 Miracle

I am not going to talk about the movie. I have already done that in my earlier post here.

Today, I will just share my thoughts on this concept of having a perfect spouse.

How do you think your life will change, if your spouse just turn perfect. Perfect in a way that he will do as you wish (I will use He instead of she, just because I wanted it to).

He looks Perfect, always. Have a look at those six-pack abs and those killer eyes, and that boyish smile. Looks to die for and wit to live for. Every time he open his mouth to speak to you; you feel like an angel from heaven is stroking your hair with light wind and that aroma of rose and lavender is filling up your nostrils. Before you say something, he will understand you.

Like you wanted him to throw the trash or just put the toilet seat down; whoosh…. where is trash? When was the toilet seat up? Done.

Done, before you say it. No need to repeat everything. Yes, he will listen in one time.

He will not only listen, he will understand you.

Please don’t cry. 😥 Not yet. I know this is hard to believe. Just stay with me for some more time.

He will take you to shopping, even if there is a major league match coming on the television. His friends are calling him on phone, which he has just switched off, so that he can look in your dark brown eyes and compare them with stars of night sky. He is showering you with expensive gifts – jewelry, fancy dresses, dinner in a top-notch restaurant, long vacations to some secluded island…. list is too long, but he has only one mission in his life; to fulfill all your wishes.

If there is anything more that you wish for, include that too. Basically, what I want to say is that he is Perfect.

Just Perfect!!!!!

Now, how is your life?

Is your life perfect?

😐

It may be Perfect.

But, isn’t it Boring?

Perfection is Boring.

I guess, I will manage with my near to perfect husband. Can’t take a chance with having a boring life. 🙂

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Movies

Tuesday Talkies – The One I Love

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Those filmmakers who say that there is a dearth of good and original stories, should watch the Movie, ‘The One I Love‘. On second thought, they shouldn’t; else they will copy this one too and make it into a joke.

“The One I Love”, directed by Charlie McDowell and starred by Mark Duplass, Elisabeth Moss, and Ted Danson, is a drama movie with comedy in its background. It is a short budget film, with only three actors (Yes, only three), and a vacation compound consisting of two houses and a pool.

Spoilers Alert – There is no way to talk about this movie and not divulge its story, and believe me if you want to enjoy this movie, you should not have any slightest idea of what this movie is all about prior to watching it. So, if you are interested in watching this movie, do not read further, as it may change your watching experience.

“The One I love”, starts with two couples, Ethan and Sophie, continuing their therapist session to help their dull marriage. They feel that there is no more a spark in their married life and it just seems without any excitement. Their therapist acknowledge that there is no more any harmony between both of them, so he advised them to go on a small vacation to a secluded estate.

They started enjoying each others company the moment they stepped into their cottage and having fun. Till, their dry season ends and they had sex in guest cottage. Problem unfolds when Ethan declares that he didn’t even stepped in guest cottage last night. Who the hell did Sophie sleep with?

At first you think of it as, Ethan is still under Marijuana effect from last night, or, maybe it was just Sophie’s dream. Comes another twist, Ethan went to guest house where he met Sophie, who is just not the same Sophie, he left in his cottage. Is he dreaming? Or, is he under the influence of some drugs? Or, is there some ghostly presence?

Story unfolds and Ethan and Sophie realize that as a matter of fact there are two Ethan and two Sophie, one set of them lives in guest cottage and others are they. This point forward lets use real Ethan/Sophie and Fake Ethan/Sophie to distinguish between our actors and their doppelgangers.

As they step into their guest cottage, they see their fake spouse in his or her best behavior. Like when Ethan goes inside guest house he saw fake Sophie cooking him, his favorite breakfast of egg and bacon. She actually looked perfect homemaker wife like 50’s. Always ready to please his husband.

Whenever Sophie step into guest house, she met fake Ethan who do pushups, paints and also talk about emotions and feelings with her. She falls in love with this perfect husband, who seems to understand him more than her real husband.

At this point you will feel the underlying idea of this whole story. We are always looking for perfection in our loved ones. We are always looking for more. So more that we sometimes start loving a totally different person from the one we started to love. In this search for a perfect spouse, what we are losing is the real person behind that mask of perfection.

We want to have fake Ethan and fake Sophie in our lives but we forget that these fake ones are only fooling us into believing in something which is not real. Life is dull with a person, with whom you can not fight because you have no differences. Instead we always seek out the one, who is just like us. We are not ready to change ourselves yet we seek out the one who will change himself as per our needs.

Enough about this philosophy, lets return back to our movie. Now, this movie could have gone to somewhere else with this philosophical point, but instead it goes sci-fi way. I guess, director wanted to explain more of why this strange doppelganger things came into effect rather than focus on human psychology.

End is good, but whole second half looks too much compacted and forced. There is a great story lost in an science fiction novel fixation. Although you will enjoy the logic too along with the irony in it.