Being an Indian I have witnessed a lot of Arranged Marriages, some small scale some larger than life in all its grandeur; but few things never change in an Indian Arranged Marriage.
Do read my earlier article also if you want a prelude to Indian Marriages and wants to know How Indians select their Brides. 😎
If yours is also an Arranged marriage, do share what was same or different in your case; even if you have opted for a Love marriage, tell us about your experience.
My Take on Indian Arranged Marriages
No need to comment, if you are still single; why waste your freedom here 😛
When you fall in Love with your Prince Charming, the love of your life; you have a vision of how he will turn out to be. Like you expect that he will take care of you for the rest of life; he will not let anyone else come between both of you; he will not give up on you, ever; he will not allow any one else to put claim on you, on your love….. etc, etc.
I was hoping the same…. alas. 😦
My heart broke few days back, when another fellow came between us. He literally dragged me by my hand and took me away from my husband; and my strong built husband didn’t even said a single word. He just let me go, so easily. 😥
It so happened, that one fine day I was watching a romantic movie with my hubby, sitting on our couch, sipping tea and laughing at the silly jokes in the movie. It was like one of those life’s small happy moments. I was cherishing all this, when suddenly my youngest, three-year old son, Renne, came to us.
‘MAMMA’, he said, literally shouting, ‘don’t sit here‘.
I asked, ‘why’?
He replied with irritable tone now, ‘Don’t sit with Papa. Come to my side‘, pointing towards our loveseat couch.
I was not surprised, Renne has always been a mamma boy. If would have been a kangaroo, he would have never come out of my pouch.
I said to him, ‘ sweetie, I am sitting with Papa here. You sit on your couch. I will come later‘.
‘No’, he replied. This time he was sort of angry, not only on me but on his Papa too. I sensed it from the way, he looked at him. ‘Come to my side. Don’t sit with Papa‘.
He was blatant about it.
‘But I want to sit with Papa. I love him too‘, I said.
‘No, you love only me‘, he replied.
By this time, I was looking for some help, some support and I turned to my husband.
My husband, the love of my life, my savior, my soulmate….. ‘Why are you not saying anything? Say something to Renne‘.
Hubby – ‘What can I say? I don’t want to come between you two. I can’t fight with him.‘ :O
Arghh!!!
See, he gave up, so easily.
Renne won.
Till movie last, he was holding my hand, as if I could have run away. He didn’t even let me go pee. Thank God! He is my son and not a possessive boyfriend/husband.
God, save the girl, he is going to marry some day.
Coming to my husband, he slept on the couch that day.
Perfection – “the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects. “
Is it possible to be perfect? Specially, is it possible to have a Perfect Spouse/Partner?
Even if you have a perfect Spouse, will your life be Perfect?
If you are thinking that I have gone mad, thinking about Perfection then No – I was already Mad, before I asked these questions. 😛
I watched a movie recently – ‘The One I love’. It had a very peculiar concept. A husband and wife goes to a vacation retreat to help their doomed marriage by spending some quality time with each other. They didn’t knew however, that this vacation home had an extra guest house with some strange powers.
Whenever any one of them entered the guest house alone, they would meet their spouse already present there, but he/she was just a perfect version of them, not the real spouse.
So, when husband entered the guest house, he saw his wife’s fake avatar, perfectly clad in skimpy clothes, making egg and bacon for him and inviting him for a joint shower session. What more a man can ask for? 😎
When wife entered the guest house, she met the perfect looking chocolatey romantic husband of hers who wants to talk about her feelings, her dreams, her aspirations. A husband who actually talk more than just asking for a sandwich. 😀 Miracle
I am not going to talk about the movie. I have already done that in my earlier post here.
Today, I will just share my thoughts on this concept of having a perfect spouse.
How do you think your life will change, if your spouse just turn perfect. Perfect in a way that he will do as you wish (I will use He instead of she, just because I wanted it to).
He looks Perfect, always. Have a look at those six-pack abs and those killer eyes, and that boyish smile. Looks to die for and wit to live for. Every time he open his mouth to speak to you; you feel like an angel from heaven is stroking your hair with light wind and that aroma of rose and lavender is filling up your nostrils. Before you say something, he will understand you.
Like you wanted him to throw the trash or just put the toilet seat down; whoosh…. where is trash? When was the toilet seat up? Done.
Done, before you say it. No need to repeat everything. Yes, he will listen in one time.
He will not only listen, he will understand you.
Please don’t cry. 😥 Not yet. I know this is hard to believe. Just stay with me for some more time.
He will take you to shopping, even if there is a major league match coming on the television. His friends are calling him on phone, which he has just switched off, so that he can look in your dark brown eyes and compare them with stars of night sky. He is showering you with expensive gifts – jewelry, fancy dresses, dinner in a top-notch restaurant, long vacations to some secluded island…. list is too long, but he has only one mission in his life; to fulfill all your wishes.
If there is anything more that you wish for, include that too. Basically, what I want to say is that he is Perfect.
Just Perfect!!!!!
Now, how is your life?
Is your life perfect?
😐
It may be Perfect.
But, isn’t it Boring?
Perfection is Boring.
I guess, I will manage with my near to perfect husband. Can’t take a chance with having a boring life. 🙂
Yesterday I was shopping and happen to find a beautiful three-piece suit for kids. I immediately grabbed it along with my boys and took them to fitting room. How cute they will be in a suit? I am a typical mother, you see.
So, I was trying it on Otu, my elder son; while Renne the younger one was standing beside me. Both of them are two and half-year old and are handsome twins. 🙂
Renne Singh and Otu Singh
So, as I was trying it on Otu, here is the conversation that took place between the three of us.
Otu: Mamma, I am a Man now??
At first I didn’t understand, but then I realized he has associated wearing a three-piece suit with being a grown up man. He is not a boy in t-shirt anymore. How smart he is? 😛
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